rideonmidnightcowgirl:

god like the thing is I remember when Lana was big in like 2012-15 and everyone was like so shocked about how masochistic she was and assumed it was just because she was some dumb pop star but like…in 2013 mitski said “I tried to eat like your girlfriend Just tea in the night, I’d end up Too hungry to sleep” and in 2014 she said “One word from you and I would jump off of this Ledge I’m on Baby” and in 2014 Molly Rankin said “you’d like us on top of a cake but you won’t let me take a bite” and in 2016 Michelle Zauner said “I love a man in uniform because he loves me like a slot machine” and “don’t you think you should try to do as little harm as you can to the woman that loves you” like people think that these themes of like masochism and abuse r things that only affect women who are “too dumb” to know better and like if you read Kurt Vonnegut you can outsmart girlhood…and everyone else is just too dumb to realize they can be independent. but at the end of the day like literally everyone feels it you can’t be a woman without being taught to want to hurt yourself and no matter how alt or edgy or woke you are those instincts will still be there…